What is suicide?
Fleeting suicidal thoughts are relatively common during periods of extreme stress. For most people, these last only for a very short time. For others, thinking about suicide is more prolonged, extremely frightening and overwhelming. Thoughts of suicide can be accompanied by:
- feelings of intense loneliness or isolation
- shame
- guilt
- regret and
- failure.
People can believe others in their life would be better off without them. They believe that if they were to die, the pain and suffering they are feeling, and the distress they are causing to others would stop.
Suicide myths
There are many myths surrounding suicide. It’s important to remember that most people who feel suicidal do not actually want to die - they do not want to live the life they have. Often, feeling actively suicidal is temporary, even if someone has been feeling low, anxious or struggling to cope for a long period of time. Always take someone seriously if they talk about feeling suicidal. Helping them get the support they need could save their life.
What is self-harm?
Self-harm is when somebody intentionally damages or injures their body. Sometimes when people self-harm they intend to take their life. Often it's a way of coping with or expressing overwhelming emotional distress. Self-harm is often misunderstood and the subject can create anxiety for all those involved. This booklet explains more about self-harm including:
- myths
- self-help approaches and
- sources of support.
How do I know if someone is struggling to cope and what can I do to help?
People who have reached rock bottom can be very skilled at hiding their thoughts and feelings. You may notice changes in someone’s personality or behaviour, or they may appear no different to usual. It’s important to trust your gut instincts and keep an eye out for any signs they might not be ok. If something about the person doesn’t look or feel right, say something.
See our leaflet or visit The Samaritans to learn more about:
- the signs of suicide and self-harm
- how to have a conversation that could save a life and
- where to go for help
If you are concerned about someone contact The Samaritans on 116 123 (24 hours) and visit the Buckinghamshire Mind website.
If you are concerned about someone’s immediate safety:
- Do not leave them on their own
- Remove anything they could use to take their own life
- Call 999 or take them to A&E
If you can, stay with them until they are seen by the mental health team.
Buckinghamshire Suicide Prevention Group
This is a group of professionals in Buckinghamshire who work together to help prevent suicide and self-harm. The organisation’s members of the group include:
- Buckinghamshire Council
- Buckinghamshire, Oxfordshire and Berkshire West Integrated Care Board
- Oxford Health NHS Foundation Trust
- Thames Valley Police
- Buckinghamshire Mind
- Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide
- The Samaritans and
- Hectors House.